Fediverse conflict is in many ways different from any other form of conflict I’ve seen play out on social media but one thing remains the same:

People embroiled in the conflict will not hesitate to air out the dirty laundry in public.

At some point, one has to ask: if this method were meant to bring about an amicable end to the conflict, wouldn’t that have happened consistently so far?

Does every conflict need a public audience?

It’s one thing if the conflict started out in public view.

It’s another to take a private matter public.

It’s a different ballgame entirely if after trying to resolve the matter privately, one of the parties involved makes a public appeal.

And then of course, who is telling the truth?

One party, both parties, or neither of them?

This is way too much for the court of public opinion. The only judicial system that has a worse record than the court of public opinion is that of the United States.

All of it comes down to a matter of emotional maturity and intelligence.

Being first to the Internet guarantees nothing. I posted evidence of my ex-wife smashing up a bedroom and screenshots of texts she sent admitting she was abusive to me for months.

I still got defamed as the abusive one.

In response to someone who stalked and harassed me for six years, I posted screens and links to the obsessive emails she sent me.

Nothing changed.

@theauracle When you present personal stuff to the internet 80% of the responses will be people projecting their anger and inadequacy.