What do you think it is that leads to you having co-workers so invested in e-drama?
@dave @HiTwo I talk to him about boredom often; I think boredom is paired with depression for many people. I try to direct him to creative outlets, bc that is obviously his inclination. I wish he would focus on one thing, anything, and MAKE something of his own ideas. I believe the efforts would be more valuable than six hours of these ramblings, even if the result is shitty, and I think it would give him creative agency and confidence to move through the world.
Creative agency counts, and making things or presenting ideas is always more satisfying than consuming.
But why he is interested? He is interested bc it is about people, mostly, and a few novel ideas. The same way I am interested in having silly interactions with Spinsters over our silly senses humor, or over our mutual outrage. There is some connection and human recognition there.
Bigger, less intriguing picture is that the employees attracted to my boss’ business are shocked Millennials trying to find a way to be sane among degen tattletales. I had to be okay with guns, no vax, no mask to work where I work, because the owners are old school anti-government and granola-crunchy.
@Hollahollara @dave @HiTwo@leafposter.club Bored men tend to find unhealthy distractions, whether it's women or YouTube Bros, or hyper-performative social justice.
@Hollahollara @dave @HiTwo@leafposter.club Also, some of these corners of the internet can be engaging, but also leave you feeling empty and depressed because they're just bursting with negative shit.
@Hollahollara @dave @HiTwo@leafposter.club I've known a few people, men in my case, be driven crazy by social media, in that it rewires their thinking. They stopped doing anything creative and just spent all their time arguing with people they don't know about things they don't care about.
@sullybiker @dave @HiTwo That seems so stressful…and tragic.
@sullybiker @dave @HiTwo But easy to find yourself entangled within, when you have no demands for busyness outside.
@Hollahollara @dave @HiTwo@leafposter.club A couple of years ago I spent a week at my dad's in Rural spain, before he had internet. It was weird being so antsy for three days, being out of contact with work and the socials, then after that I just didn't give a shit. It was liberating. Modern life is rubbish.
@Hollahollara @dave @HiTwo@leafposter.club There's an interview with Jamie Kilstein (who I still regard as a bit of a shit) on Rogan where he actually describes this process perfectly. Living for the rage rush.
@sullybiker @dave @HiTwo It satisfies something, for a little bit. Then, the cumulative result is not something aspirational, I suppose. It is inert, at best.
@Hollahollara @dave @HiTwo@leafposter.club Being angry and agitated all the time is miserable.
@sullybiker @dave @HiTwo Women find distractions, too. When I was most bored, I was obsessed with the most nihilistic stuff. I am sure it started as intriguing and fact-finding. Any of these parts are parts of life, true, but when you fill your hours with individually-unsolvable problems, the result is not favorable to achievement or well-being.